Taming the Guilt and Shame of Being a Slut

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Taming the guilt and shame of being a slut can be a monumental task for a slut. A slut that knows who she is sexually but is afraid to say it out loud and/or act on it has to live a double life to protect herself.

A society with religious roots is filled with unspoken rules that have emotional and spiritual consequences for people who are living in that society. An environment whose attitudes are influenced by television can give a woman a false sense of freedom that will later imprison her innermost desires.

Your Fantasies Versus Your Personal Life

Your reputation among your family and inner circle must be separate. Your family and friends share a personal connection with you as a human. Privacy is to be expected yet we all know our family and friends can be the nosiest people we know. What would happen if they knew about the real you?

What if your mother and grandmother knew you enjoyed men you do not know groping you as they walk past you in tight spaces? What if you are the slut that has rape aka nonconsensual-consensual fantasies of being taken by a group of men who know how to fuck a woman right?

Your family wouldn’t look at you the same if they knew you liked to get invited over by one man and he then shares you with his friends.

What guilt? What shame? Aren’t they the same?

The Guilt of Being a Slut

When your mother asks you what you were doing over the weekend, you feel guilty about lying. You’re not going to tell her the truth about the train you let those guys run on Friday night. You can’t tell your best friend who is religious that you met up with a guy off Tinder for the first time and was sucking his dick 2 hours later.

You find yourself (technically) lying about who you are to people who love you. When they ask if are you seeing anybody you cannot tell them the truth. If you did, it could have long-term negative effects on your relationship with them.

This also bleeds into your love life. You could be madly in love with a man. But what if your fantasy is for that man to “pimp you out”? What if you want to be a sexy cocktail waitress for him and his friends’ poker night?

This type of guilt eats a lot of women up. It can drive them to drink, do drugs, binge-watch toxic television, and depression. Every woman who has embraced her inner-slut has had to deal with this guilt.

How they deal with or have dealt with guilt is something I will have to do research on. And isolation seems to be the go-to remedy.

The Shame of Being a Slut

The shaming of sluts is another issue. When the public puts you down as if you are the lower part of society, it can have devastating effects on your social, personal, and professional life.

Your sex life and picture could become a running joke on social media for all eternity. You could be told to stay away from certain family members because of your reputation. None of this would make a slut happy about her actions if they were to happen.

We all make mistakes. That ganging you did at that party 15 years ago is still talked about over a decade later. You’ve moved on with your life yet the story is as fresh off the press as if it just happened. It can interfere with your ability to keep things professional. If every man you work with knows you can’t say no to a hard dick pressed up against you, it could lead to a trip to the HR office.

And then there is the shame that comes from maturity. Poor judgement, trusting the wrong people, and doing things you knew you did not like to fit in with people you no longer like. This type of shame comes with holding yourself accountable.

How to Tame the Guilt and Shame of Being a Slut

Telling yourself the brutal truth shouldn’t be as hard as telling another person. Being honest about the things that arouse you can unleash the floodgates of guilt and shame, but it can also liberate you from the mental cesspool of anxiety and procrastination.

Therefore you owe it to yourself to be honest about your deepest desires. Honesty is the only way to tame the guilt and shame of being a slut.

Living a lie won’t bring you the orgasm that you have been chasing your entire life. Being honest about things you feel guilty about is a challenge in itself. It is not exclusive to sex. So this may be a sign of a deeper issue.

When it comes to being a slut, taming the guilt and shame that will inevitably come should be a top priority. Identifying and understanding the risks of fulfilling your fantasies will help make better decisions for yourself. Don’t allow your reputation to become a negative attribute.